The Teenager Talks

  CH-2   SPECIAL SCENARIOS WITH SIBLINGS We have discussed the ways to bond up with your sibling in previous chapter. We will now discuss certain special scenarios pertaining to siblings. 1)       IF THE SIBLING DOES NOT STAY WITH YOU An elder sibling may have moved out for higher studies, job or after marriage to a different country, city or another house. A younger sibling may be at a boarding school. Missing them is normal but there are ways to stay connected with them: a)       Meet for special occasions. Make it a ritual to celebrate festivals together. b)       Do not make them feel out of place when they visit. Make them feel at home. c)       Do not get jealous if they are pampered more when they visit. Don’t feel bad and spoil the mood. Contribute in making them feel special. d)       Keep a connection to understand what is going on in their life. Read between the lines to see if there is anything that worries them but they are unable to share for any specific re

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  Ch-1 THE SPECIAL BOND OF SIBLINGS “Siblings, together as friends, ready to face whatever life sends” All of us have a love-hate relationship with our siblings. Having somebody around all the time, sharing your room, stuff and sometimes clothes can be annoying at times. But your sibling is the first friend you get for life. Be it elder-younger, one or many, brother or sister, but your sibling will always be your partner-in-crime and your best secret keeper (of course with a bribe). They are the ones who help you enhance the skills of convincing and manipulation. They can save you from the scolding of the parents and can fight the world for you. The arguments and general fights are also common among siblings. It’s the duty of siblings to tease each other. The family feels something missing if they are not irritating each other. Parents happen to be the ineffective referee in their conflict. That’s a sibling. Here are a few ways to perk up the bond with your siblings:- 1

FAQs   1-       Why should we take the first step? That’s so because the gap between you and parents enlarged during the tween years (8-12 years) and now that you are geared up to take the leap, showing maturity should be the foremost step by you. 2-       Do you think parents will trust us if we start talking to them? As you sow, so shall you reap! Sowing seeds of trust will surely grant returns. 3-        How to initiate awkward conversations? Try watching a movie or a web series which has the related subject matter ,if you cannot talk frankly. 4-       It’s complicated to have discussions with parents. They don’t understand us? Each step is difficult if not taken. They have passed your age and no one can understand you better than them. You have their genes after all!! 5-       Why should we talk? It’s going fine just this way! It’s temporarily going well this way. For longer run, you need to assure them of your mental and emotional intellect to gain confiden

  PARENTS AND STUDIES/CAREER The aim of any parents’ life to see their children grow into successful people who have   stability in their life and the finest of career. This is the most common subject of arguments and disagreement in all families. The most common words used by parents in nearly all conversations will be- study, education, career, focus, future, ambition, dedication and determination. However, the teenagers are unable to look beyond the last few years in school and want to have the most memorable time with their friends. They forget that the parents have wider outlook of life and their worry has a reason. But another fact that cannot be disregarded is that in living the life for family and fulfilling every need of theirs, they tend to forget their own life as teenagers. They now only will have few regrets of incomplete actions from that time. The following points will help you communicate better with them and create a balance :- 1)         Talk to them about

    PARENTS AND YOUR FRIENDS The second important pillar of your life is your friends. Therefore, coordination between parents and friends is of supreme importance.   You need to create the balance between two major aspects of your life.  We will discuss this topic under three heads 1)       Your group of friends . If your parents do not like the vibe of a particular friend, or do not want you to hang out with a particular person, listen to them. Ask them what they did not like in him/her. Talk it out. Understand the reason. Trust their instinct or prove to them the innocence of your friend. It is either way. But do not fight with them over a temporary person.   No person can be spared from the super x-ray vision of parents who can clearly see the intention of other children. And you do not want any tension to build up while having the fun time of the day. However if you still feel that parents could be wrong in judging your friend, call him/her over and clear the air. Ask f

  PARENTS AND YOU As you continue your teenage journey, you will meet a lot of temporary and permanent people who will make your life easier or tougher. However, the people at both ends of the tunnel will always be your family, YOUR PARENTS! I will not state the fact that parents know it all, but I will undeniably say that you should understand your parents now. You are old enough to be at that side of the table. 1)       Your parents have seen you grow from day 1 of your life and suddenly when you are in your own world which has a larger room for your friends, they feel to have lost the child who came running to them for each little need. Trust me kids, they miss you. And it can be felt in their sarcasm only! 2)       They have not seen you grow as you entered this tunnel (tween age) and hence it’s your duty to make them realize that you are big now, by your actions, and not words. Parents are happy to see the kids growing into mature, wise humans. Demonstrate it to them. 3)       You

Welcome to The teenager  talks! Teenage: the most memorable and wonderful years of one’s journey. Consider it as passing through a tunnel going from childhood to adulthood with a lot of giveaways and takeaways during the process. By this page, I would like all the teenagers  to have the greatest takeaways and come out of the tunnel as amazing human beings ready to face the world. The journey however brings with it, a lot of hurdles, breakdowns and lessons along with a lifetime of fun reminiscences. Each individual has a separate journey, even if you all are in it together, you may have different problems and issues. The best person you talk to is your friend who may or may not have faced the same problems. Sharing your issues with a person of same intellect will provide you with temporary solutions. Hence this page assures of solutions which will help you solve any further  issue yourself and for friends in same boat through an adult who will keep themselves  anonymous. A lot of